Follow some or all of the steps below to use role playing for solving problems.
1. Think about a situation or life task that is a problem for you.2. Describe the behavior of the people involved and the consequences of their behavior.
3. Discuss why this situation or life task is difficult for you.
4. Identify the skills you would need to improve to be more successful with this problem.
5. Observe others playing your role in a situation that is difficult for you.
6. Write down or improvise similar problem situations and act them out with others,
7. Be sure that you practice the skills that are a problem for you when you role play.
8. Have someone make an audio or video tape of your role play.
9. Decide how successful you were in dealing with the problem and get feedback from others, What did you do well? What still seems to be a problem for you?
10. Talk about how you felt about yourself each time you did role playing.
11. Before using your improved skills in an actual situation, try a dry run or rehearsal.
12. Put your new skills to work in a real life situation and give yourself a hand!
POSITIVE SELF TALK
Follow some or all of the steps below to use positive self talk for solving problems.
1. Choose a life task that is difficult for you.2. Decide what action you could take or quality you could develop to become more successful in dealing with this task.
3. Create one or more statements that will help your attitude and thinking be more positive.
4. Express your statement as though what you desire is happening now.
5. Use only positive terms.
6. Use the "I" or "me" pronoun in your statement.
7. Keep your statement short and simple.
8. Write your statement on a card and carry it with you; study it and think about it at least ten times a day.
9. Display your statement at home, work, or school,
10. Repeat your statement to yourself ten times a day.
11. Tape record your statement and listen to it daily.
12. Put your statement into practice and give yourself a hand!
NOTE. In the film Fright Night, Roddy McDowall plays a former horror film star and host of a local TV program. As he prepares to confront a real-life vampire, McDowall's character repeats to himself several times, "I am Peter Vincent, fearless vampire killer." This is an example of positive self talk. McDowall's statement contains all the elements of positive self talk: Life Task - killing vampires; Desired Quality - fearlessness; Statement is short and simple, phrased in the present tense and uses the "I" pronoun.
Other examples of positive self talk include statements such as "I am a person who deserves and gives love" or "I am comfortable with who I am and how I look".
VISUALIZATION
Follow some or all of the steps below to use visualization for solving problems.
1. Think about a life task that is difficult for you.2. Find a quiet, comfortable place to sit.
3 . Relax and take several deep breaths.
4. Close your eyes and clear your mind of distractions.
5. Think about your difficult situation.
6. Imagine what the situation would be like under the very best conditions.
7. Describe the situation you see in your mind.
8. Think about what is different about your visualized situation compared to real life.
9. Talk into a tape recorder, write down what you see, or dictate your thoughts for someone else to write down. You may also draw the situation or cut up magazines to make a collage or poster about your difficult situation.
10. What can you do to make your vision of the future come true or to improve the way things are now?
11. Devise a plan of action to improve your ability to cope with your situation.
12. Take some steps to make your visualization a reality and give yourself a hand!
CHARACTERISTICS OF SELF ESTEEM
The following statements contrast low and high self esteem.
The middle column identifies the particular self esteem building block illustrated by the statement.
Lessons can be developed for any of the statements listed below, First, determine which self esteem building block is illustrated by the statement. Second, identify which life domain is affected by the building block, Third, follow the steps in the blank problem- solving lesson plan included in each life domain.
| HIGH SELF ESTEEM | BUILDING BLOCK | LOW SELF ESTEEM |
| 1. My life has purpose and direction. | INITIATIVE | It seems that my life lacks purpose and direction. |
| 2. I feel that I'm in control of what happens to me. | CONTROL | I feel that I have no control over what happens to me. |
| 3. I say "yes" when I mean "yes" and "no" when I mean "no". | INTEGRITY | I tend to say "yes" when I really want to say "no". |
| 4. I set goals and stick to them. | INITIATIVE | I have trouble setting goals and sticking to them. |
| 5. Most people like me and enjoy being around me. | INTIMACY | It seems that most people don't like me and try to avoid me. |
| 6. I have a positive outlook on life. | INITIATIVE | I tend to see the worst in life. |
| 7. I believe that I can cope with whatever happens to me | COMPETENCE | I don't feel that I can cope with whatever life brings. |
| 8. I have little difficulty making up my mind. | CONFIDENCE | It's hard for me to make up my mind. |
| 9. I am satisfied with who I am and how I look. | INTEGRITY | I don't feel good about who I am and how I look. |
| 10. I state my needs and feelings without attacking others | CONTROL | I tend to attack others when stating how I feel and what I need. |
| 11. I am able to relax and not worry too much | CONTROL | It's hard for me to relax and not worry too much about things.R> . |
| 12. My problems are manageable | .CONFIDENCE | My problems seem overwhelming. |
| 13. I rely on my inner qualities for happiness. | INTEGRITY | I tend to depend on others for my happiness. |
| 14. I'm good at solving problems. | COMPETENCE | I feel that I'm not good at solving problems |
| 15. Most people respect and value my opinion. | INTIMACY | It seems that most people don't respect me or value my opinion. |
| 16. I find it easy to say good things about myself | CONFIDENCE | It's difficult for me to say good things about myself |
| 17. People are basically honest and good. | INTEGRITY | People are mostly dishonest and untrustworthy. |
| 18. I feel that I'm successful at what I do | .COMPETENCE | I don't feel successful in life. |
| 19. I stand up for what I believe. | INTEGRITY | I tend to let people "run over" me. |
| 20. 1 take good care of my health. | COMPETENCE | I tend to neglect my health. |
| 21. It's easy for me to express love and caring. | INTIMACY | It's difficult for me to express love and caring, |
| 22. 1 am energetic. | INITIATIVE | I lack energy. |
| 23. 1 can talk to people without feeling nervous. | INTIMACY | I find it hard to talk to people without getting nervous. |
| 24. My life has meaning | .INITIATIVE | My life has no meaning. |
| 25. I like to meet new people. | INTIMACY | It's hard for me to meet new people. |
JUST GIVE ME THE BOTTOM LINE - WHAT MUST I DO TO HAVE HIGH SELF ESTEEM (PROJECT SELF'S TERRIFIC TWENTY TIPS)
1. Think "Win-Win" when you negotiate with others, not "I win, you lose".2. Keep a positive attitude about life.
3. Be assertive without putting others down.
4. Set goals and work hard to reach them.
5. Control your behavior to fit the situation.
6. Contribute to the success of others - Lend a helping Hand.
7. Know your strengths and use them.
8. Show love and caring.
9. Value and respect others.
10. Display a positive, confident image to the people you meet.
11. Maintain a sense of purpose and direction in your life.
12. Manage conflict so it doesn't manage you.
13. Behave according to your values and beliefs.
14. Believe in your ability to cope with whatever happens.
15. Build supportive relationships.
16. Solve problems at their smallest level.
17. Be willing to improve your skills.
18. Manage your resources wisely.
19. Take care of your emotional and physical health.
20. Learn to relax.
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES FOR RAISING SELF ESTEEM
1. Abata, Russell. How To Develop A Better Self Image. Liguori, MO: Liquori Publications. 1979.
2. Booher, Diana. Making Friends With Yourself and Other Strangers. New York, NY: Julian Messner. 1982.
3 . Braham, Barbara J. How To Build Your Self Esteem. Cincinnati, Ohio: South-Western Publishing Co. 1993.
4. Branden, Nathaniel. The Six Pillars of Self Esteem. New York, NY: Bantam Books. 1994.
5. Briggs, Dorothy. Your Child's Self Esteem: The Key to His Life. New York, NY: Dolphin Books. 1975.
6. Canfield, Jack, 100 Ways to Enhance Self-Concept in the Classroom: A Handbook for Teachers and Parents. Englewood Cliffs, NY: Prentice-Hall. 1976.
7. Cleve, Jay. Out of the Blues. Minneapolis, MN: Compcare Publishers. 1989,
8. Covey, Stephen. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. New York, NY: Simon and Schuster. 1989.
9. Hart, Louise. The Winning Family.- Increasing Self Esteem In Your Children and Yourself Lifeskills Press. 1990.
10. Heimstetter, Shad. The Self-Talk Solution. New York, NY: William Morrow and Company, Inc. 1987.
11. Hooker, Dennis and Almut. Me and Others. New York, NY: Educational Design, Inc. 1990.
12. McKay, Matthew and Patrick Fannim. Self Esteem. Oakland, CP: New Harbinger Publications. 1987.
13. MT. T. Be Somebody or Be Somebody's Fool. New York, NY: St. Martin's Press. 1984.
14. Powell, John. Happiness Is an Inside Job. Allen, TX: Tabor Publishers, 1989.
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